As a caregiver you might have spent more afternoons than you want to recall wishing that you could take a nap instead of powering through multiple difficult tasks. But you want to be there for your senior and you might not feel as if you have other options. You might be surprised.
Get Really Honest with Family Members.
If you do have family members who live near you and your senior, get super honest with them. Let them know what challenges you’re facing and where you need help. If you’re not even sure where you need help the most, tell them that. They may be able to pitch in to the point where you can all get clear on your most pressing needs.
Ask Them How They Can Help.
It can be really overwhelming for you to ask your family member to pitch in and help. If you can come to them with a specific request, that’s something that they can tackle. Leaving the situation open-ended might mean that your family members back away instead of finding ways to help you and your senior more effectively.
Situations Often Depend on Perception.
From your side of things, it’s frustrating to not have help and to feel as if other family members don’t care as much about what might be going on with you. But from the other side of the coin, your family members might have been waiting for you to let them know that they’re needed. When you do finally reach out, they may be relieved that you’ve let them know how they can help.
Don’t Let Lack of Help Keep You Where You Are.
The biggest lesson for you as a caregiver is that you don’t have to wait for people to notice that you need them. Reach out and consider other options, like hiring home care providers. They’re able to offer a little bit of help or a lot, which can free you up to rest and to reach out to other people who can support you emotionally. It’s also something that can benefit your aging adult, so don’t overlook the positive effect of bringing in new and experienced help.
Being a caregiver might mean that you experience loneliness, exhaustion, and a whole host of other issues, but that doesn’t mean that you’re stuck there no matter what. You can take some steps now that can make a big difference in your current situation.