As a family caregiver you might feel as if you are never going to get your to do list managed. If you attack it the right way, you can do more than you think.
Do a Brain Dump Now and Then.
A brain dump is a term for writing down everything that is in your mental to do list. When you don’t write that kind of stuff down, it floats around in your head and nags at you while you’re doing all sorts of other things. You can’t really think when you’re constantly worried about what you have to do. So take a blank sheet of paper and just start writing down everything that’s on your mind right now.
What Do You Have to Do?
Once you can’t think of anymore tasks, you’re finished with your brain dump. You might add more tasks later, but for now, it’s time to start categorizing. Make a small mark on your list next to any tasks that only you can do. Make sure when you’re categorizing that this is something that truly only you can do. For example, grocery shopping could be delegated to someone else, as long as you find someone to do it.
What Can Other People Do?
If you’re honest with yourself, there are a lot of tasks that other people are going to be able to handle for you. These tasks could include all sorts of things from laundry and housekeeping tasks to providing companionship for your aging adult when you need to be elsewhere. Highlight these tasks on your list or make a different type of mark to indicate that these tasks can be delegated.
Finding Those Other People Is Not as Complicated as it Seems.
Your resistance to this process is most likely to be rooted in the fact that it feels way too difficult and complicated to find people to whom you can delegate tasks. Friends, family, and even neighbors are likely far more willing to help you than you think, they just don’t know what you need from them. Hiring home care providers gives you even more leeway in getting the help that you need when you need it the most.
If you can give yourself some grace when it comes to getting things done, you’ll find that it’s easier to deal with your tasks. Beating yourself up over it isn’t going to make you more productive or inspire you to find time and resources where you don’t have them.